The Benefits of Family Counseling

Families can benefit from therapy when they experience any stressful event that may strain family relationships, such as financial hardship, divorce, or the death of a loved one. Also, it can be effective in treating mental health concerns that impact the family as a whole, such as depression, substance abuse, chronic illness, and food issues, or everyday concerns, like communication problems, interpersonal conflict, or behavioural problems in children and adolescents.

Family counselling aims to promote understanding and collaboration among family members to solve the problems of one or more individuals. For example, if a child is having social and academic problems, therapy will focus on the family patterns that may contribute to the child's acting out, rather than evaluating the child's behaviour alone. As the family uncovers the source of the problem, they can learn to support the child and other family members and work proactively on minimizing or altering the conditions that contribute to the child's unwanted behaviour.

How to Become Counseling & Family Therapy?

Any individual you have a Masters Degree in Psychology and undergone some training can become a family therapist. All though technically you don't any degree for doing counselling and family therapy but in order to gain theoretical and practical approach in counselling of any family you must go for some course in family therapy. It can be any certificate course in family therapy.

Do we need RCI Registration to work as Family Therapist??

No. Working as a counsellor in any field including family therapy you don't need RCI registration. But if you work in the field of Disorder and rehabilitation and you are making in diagnosis, you must be registered under Rehabilitation Council of India. 

Role of Counselor & Family Therapist?

A family therapist typically meets with an entire family to discuss and examine the issues that are interfering in their lives. However, a family therapist also performs one-on-one counselling time if necessary with family members. The goal of therapy is to address emotional or mental issues that are harming the family. For example, families may be undergoing some sort of crisis at work or a psychological conflict with them. By talking with patients, a family therapist seeks to address and modify these issues.

रीता अचानक ही कुछ बदली बदली लग रही है। उसका व्यवहार भी कुछ बदल गया है। वह बहुत खुश रहने लगी है परन्तु परिवार में अब ज्यादा घुलती मिलती भी नही। हाँ हमेशा सिर्फ अपने मोबाइल फ़ोन में ही उल्झी रहती है। चाहे वो कहीं भी रहे उसका फ़ोन उसके साथ होना चाहिए। यहाँ तक की रसोई में खाना पकाते हुए भी। जब हमने कभी फ़ोन का प्रयोग कम करने को कहते है तो उखर जाती है और गुस्सा करने लगती है। ये कहना था उसके पति उमेश का। रीता और उमेश की यह समस्या सिर्फ उनकी ही नही बल्कि आज के हर घर की है। यह समस्या देखने और समझने में बहुत बड़ी नही थी। परन्तु ये छोटी सी समस्या कब हमारे रिश्तों को अंदर ही अंदर खोख्ला करने लगती हैं। आइये आज की शुरुआत हम सोशल मीडिया के प्रभाव के बारे में जानते है। 

• क्या आप अपना ज्यादातर वक़्त एक खास व्यक्ति से चैटिंग करते हुए व्यतीत करते हैं?
• क्या आपके मस्तिष्क में किसी एक ही व्यक्ति के बारे में सोचते हैं?
• आप कुछ घंटों में उत्तर नहीं मिलने पर बेचैनी महसूस होती है, और उत्तर मिलने पर आराम आ जाता है?
• अपने पति/पत्नी से ज्यादा उस खास व्यक्ति से बातें करना अच्छा लगता है।
• क्या आपके पति/पत्नी या परिवार या दोस्त के प्रतिरोध पर आपने किसी का नाम बदल कर कुछ और ही रख दिया है? और अक्सर ही बदलते रहते हैं?
• क्या आप अपने सारे इमेल्स के पासवर्ड बदल दिए हैं? और आपने एक जाली सोशल खाता खोला है और वह आप उसे गुप्त रूप से प्रयोग करते हैं?
• जब भी कोई आपसे उस व्यक्ति के बारे में या फ़ोन कम प्रयोग करने के बारे बात करता है तो आपको गुस्सा आता है और चिढ़ होती है।
• आप अपने साथी को अपने इस खास व्यक्ति अक्सर ही तुलना करते हैं और अपने साथी के बारे में अत्यधिक बुरा सोचने लगे हैं?
• आप वयस्क चुटकुले, चित्र, वित्तीय मुद्दों, व्यक्तिगत शरीर के विवरण और पेशेवर रहस्य भी साँझा करते हुए नही झिझकते?
• अपने साथी के साथ शारीरक संबंध होते समय उस खास व्यक्ति के साथ होने की इच्छा है?

Extra-Marital Affairs can happen in any marriages, happy or troubled. It does not mean that something is missing in any partner or at home. This can happen at any point in time or in any life stage. There are some external stimuli that push people away from balance.

Stimuli can be any big success or achievement or even failure in career or any other aspect where an individual feels inflated and entitled or might feeling inadequate or family illness or change of life circumstances.

There are so many other reasons which force an individual to stay away from their commitment and responsibility. It does not mean that they are unhappy with you. Don’t blame yourself. Blaming yourself and taking responsibility for their affair is a very common reaction. This would be a wrong assumption.

It would be extremely traumatizing for you. It is very normal to feel cheated, dishearten, experience depression and a profound sense of loss.

Whatever the scene maybe but marriages can do and survive from extramarital affairs, can also become stronger and more intimate. Just need the commitment and desire from both sides.

Take it as a wake-up call that needs to be addressed timely. This could be time for improving communication, reconnecting and creating a new bond.

It’s best to have a good understanding of what led your relationship down this path. Leaving without knowing what actually happened, increases the probability of repeating the same pattern a second time.

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