It may sound good to know that simple journaling can emotionally heal you as well. Simply penning down your thought can so recovering. As a Psychological Counselor, I use this writing technique for my client for their emotional healing. I train them how to use it in their day to day life and believe me it's so catheretic. 

Writing about our own difficulties and dreams helps us experience increased happiness, health and productivity. This technique helps in finding meaning in the mess. When you write and re-read and your writing can further deepen your understanding and healing. I have found that writing down not only helps us understand where the feelings are coming from, it also makes it easier to let go of the negative emotions. 

Many of us simply hold our emotions, storing them away in our bodies, and we become emotionally constipated, unable to let go of that which isn't helping us in any way. Eventually, when our system gets too backed up, we get sick. We can no longer function as we should. Become sluggish, unresponsive depressed.

• Counseling at your place - you could be at your home, office, travelling, on a favourite walk destination and talk to your therapist.
• No need to commute – You don’t need waste time in road traffic and catching public transport. Just talk counseling wherever you are.
• No need to change counselor - You don’t need to find a different counselor just because you have shifted to a different location. You need to choose a counselor with whom you feel comfortable and understood.
• Consult a qualified counselor even if this service is not available in your place. You don’t need to compromise on your mental health just because your city doesn’t have counselor. Get counselor wherever you are.
• A great option for people with mobility issues - If you can’t move out of your house because you have a physical disability or you don’t have a car, or you can’t leave your kid alone at home, therapy can still happen - ONLINE.

• You always miss the feel of sitting in front of a counselor with all his body language, gestures, expressions and the vibes. Hmmm, they are also very useful things.
• Network problems can be really disruptive for therapy sessions because they break the flow and act as major irritants.
• Online Counseling or Phone-Counseling is not meant for severe psychiatric disorders.

Disclaimer: I am not suggesting that phone counseling replace in-person counseling, nor am I suggesting phone counseling for trauma. I recommend EMDR combined with yoga/meditation for trauma healing.

रीता अचानक ही कुछ बदली बदली लग रही है। उसका व्यवहार भी कुछ बदल गया है। वह बहुत खुश रहने लगी है परन्तु परिवार में अब ज्यादा घुलती मिलती भी नही। हाँ हमेशा सिर्फ अपने मोबाइल फ़ोन में ही उल्झी रहती है। चाहे वो कहीं भी रहे उसका फ़ोन उसके साथ होना चाहिए। यहाँ तक की रसोई में खाना पकाते हुए भी। जब हमने कभी फ़ोन का प्रयोग कम करने को कहते है तो उखर जाती है और गुस्सा करने लगती है। ये कहना था उसके पति उमेश का। रीता और उमेश की यह समस्या सिर्फ उनकी ही नही बल्कि आज के हर घर की है। यह समस्या देखने और समझने में बहुत बड़ी नही थी। परन्तु ये छोटी सी समस्या कब हमारे रिश्तों को अंदर ही अंदर खोख्ला करने लगती हैं। आइये आज की शुरुआत हम सोशल मीडिया के प्रभाव के बारे में जानते है। 

• क्या आप अपना ज्यादातर वक़्त एक खास व्यक्ति से चैटिंग करते हुए व्यतीत करते हैं?
• क्या आपके मस्तिष्क में किसी एक ही व्यक्ति के बारे में सोचते हैं?
• आप कुछ घंटों में उत्तर नहीं मिलने पर बेचैनी महसूस होती है, और उत्तर मिलने पर आराम आ जाता है?
• अपने पति/पत्नी से ज्यादा उस खास व्यक्ति से बातें करना अच्छा लगता है।
• क्या आपके पति/पत्नी या परिवार या दोस्त के प्रतिरोध पर आपने किसी का नाम बदल कर कुछ और ही रख दिया है? और अक्सर ही बदलते रहते हैं?
• क्या आप अपने सारे इमेल्स के पासवर्ड बदल दिए हैं? और आपने एक जाली सोशल खाता खोला है और वह आप उसे गुप्त रूप से प्रयोग करते हैं?
• जब भी कोई आपसे उस व्यक्ति के बारे में या फ़ोन कम प्रयोग करने के बारे बात करता है तो आपको गुस्सा आता है और चिढ़ होती है।
• आप अपने साथी को अपने इस खास व्यक्ति अक्सर ही तुलना करते हैं और अपने साथी के बारे में अत्यधिक बुरा सोचने लगे हैं?
• आप वयस्क चुटकुले, चित्र, वित्तीय मुद्दों, व्यक्तिगत शरीर के विवरण और पेशेवर रहस्य भी साँझा करते हुए नही झिझकते?
• अपने साथी के साथ शारीरक संबंध होते समय उस खास व्यक्ति के साथ होने की इच्छा है?

Extra-Marital Affairs can happen in any marriages, happy or troubled. It does not mean that something is missing in any partner or at home. This can happen at any point in time or in any life stage. There are some external stimuli that push people away from balance.

Stimuli can be any big success or achievement or even failure in career or any other aspect where an individual feels inflated and entitled or might feeling inadequate or family illness or change of life circumstances.

There are so many other reasons which force an individual to stay away from their commitment and responsibility. It does not mean that they are unhappy with you. Don’t blame yourself. Blaming yourself and taking responsibility for their affair is a very common reaction. This would be a wrong assumption.

It would be extremely traumatizing for you. It is very normal to feel cheated, dishearten, experience depression and a profound sense of loss.

Whatever the scene maybe but marriages can do and survive from extramarital affairs, can also become stronger and more intimate. Just need the commitment and desire from both sides.

Take it as a wake-up call that needs to be addressed timely. This could be time for improving communication, reconnecting and creating a new bond.

It’s best to have a good understanding of what led your relationship down this path. Leaving without knowing what actually happened, increases the probability of repeating the same pattern a second time.

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When clients get in touch about an issue they wish to discuss and overcome, they’re often anxious and apprehensive. Often they are fearful and embarrassed too. They feel vulnerable. The success or outcome of any therapy is often determined by rapport and trust between the client and therapist.

I immerse myself in my work and the client's personal situation, and really put myself in their shoes. The utmost respect and confidentiality are given to the client, as is my undivided attention and also out of office hours time. I often speak to clients in between sessions at length giving them support as much as they require, there are no limits.

If you are looking to talk to someone about any of these issues - anxiety, stress, insomnia, irritable bowel syndrome, panic attacks, low self-esteem, low confidence, phobias and fears - please get in touch.

You can either email me at phonixcentre@gmail.com or go to my website www.phonixcentre.in and book appointment using appointment link. 

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